e. jean-ious

Love is a battlefield.

 No lie, we all know it. 

But since when did sex become a weapon?

I know i’ve read various stuff on the “sex and the city” culture that has been created in the past five or so years, with women feeling that it’s acceptable and even admirable to have as much sex as they want, with as many guys as they want.  But i always felt that as long as that it was for them, to make themselves happy, fine.

But then i read this, in Elle’ s E. Jean advice column:

Dear E. Jean: My best girlfriend says women should feel “empowered” when we hook up with guys, because it means we’ve “worked” them. But lately I don’t feel empowered. I feel guilty.

Here’s what happened: My guy friend had been pursuing me, and last weekend, because of a strong cocktail, I decided to go for it. He came over to my place; we got a little more drunk and did our thing. To my own amazement, I was a wild thing in bed—definitely not my normal bedroom demeanor! Every time I think of that night, I blush.

He has called me several times, and I absolutely can’t bring myself to return his calls. He obviously loved my wilder side. I don’t understand why I am so scared of it. Am I just not the kind of girl who can have a one-night fling without feeling filthy? Or am I avoiding him because I lack confidence?—An Amiss Miss

In response, e jean writes:

“What your best girlfriend said about “working” guys bothers the heck out of me. Women are “empowered” by joy, discipline, drive, ambition, humor, money, compassion, a good wardrobe, and real belief in themselves right down to the core of their spleens…not by—uh, hello!—hooking up.”

Wait, so we’re “working ” guys, by giving them sex? This is our big empowering move?  Is the whole letting them earn more money than we do thing a big trick too?!?

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